Sooo why are you still single?

Hello you lovely Dutchess Roz readers, PinkLouLou here, PLL for short. Guest blogging for Miss Roz while she is on "holiday" as she says (I just used my very best english accent) nothing better than a southern gal trying to sound British right? ;)

Anyhoo, not sure how much you know about me, but if you need the background, here ya go. Grab a cocktail cause my love life story is out of control, and  you are gonna need it. I am from the South (for you overseas readers, YES I am from Kentucky, born and raised.) As the gorgeous Ashley Judd once best put it:

"Sure, the girls from New York, they are tough. And girls from Georgia, they are sweet. But those born and bred fiesta Kentucky girls, they are the ones you have to look out for. We have sugar and fire in our blood. We can ride a horse, be a debutante, throw a left hook, and tell you the entire UK line up all while making sweet tea. And if we have an opinion, you get to know it. We're both the pride and the downfall of the Bluegrass…" 

Now let me tell ya a little difference about the South and oh, all other parts of the country. We get married young. I am 26, and for the past four years my summers have been filled with 8-10 weddings a piece. No lie. Now don't go thinking I am all anti-wedding or anything like that. I love weddings. Open bar, dancing, seeing your best friends find true love, I love all of these things. But there comes a point when you reach your mid- late twenties, and you are nowhere near matrimonial wedded bliss, that you get confronted with this question: 

"Sooo why is it that you are still single?" 

All.the.time. 

"I mean, you are a pretty, smart, fun girl, I am just surprised you haven't found anyone…"

Well obviously there must be something HORRIBLY wrong with me if I haven't been scooped and married before I turn 30. Ha, I mean seriously you would be surprised by how many times I am asked this question. I mean what is this 1964 Jackson Mississippi? No. It is 2011. And guess what, times ain't like the use to be kids. One time my mother actually said to me "Sometimes I feel sorry for you girls, I just always had your father…" that is great mom. I am glad you and dad met when you were 13 and have been together ever since. But guess what, I happen to LOVE my life. I am 26, I have the best girlfriends in the world, and I have had some pretty amazing times being single and 20 something. 

Do I want to find that perfect person to spend my life with? Absolutely.All I ever wanted growing up was to be a momma and housewife. But I am NOT in a rush to make something work that isn't right. I have been there. I have had that 4 carat Tiffany sparkler on my left hand. (ok maybe it wasn't four carats ;) and it was hearts on fire not Tiffany, but whatever HA) but I was there. I called off my engagement for Pete's sake (click here if you want THAT whole story). If I had wanted to get married for the sake of not being that 'single girl' don't' you think I would have done it? But it wasn't right, and this chic is NOT settling. 

So it just burns me up when I get the standard "how come you are single?" pity question. Seriously makes me want to chug a glass of wine and say "because I like to kiss any cute boyI want" HA! 

So girls that are married, I am so happy for you and I hope to be there one day. Girls that are single and feeling the pressure, STOP it! Go get your best girlfriends together, put on a hot dress, grab a martini and go HAVE FUN! I promise you, you will miss these days. So LIVE IT UP! And RELAX, quit putting so much pressure on yourself! It will happen exactly how it is suppose to. And if I hear you are wasting your time moping around and 'woe as me-ing' instead of our there LIVING your twenties, I am gonna march my tail over to your house, with all my best dresses in tow, margarita in hand, give you some super fab southern hair, and take your hot ass out dancing! Don't test me, you know I will do it. 

So. In conclusion, for the love of ALL single twenty somethings everywhere, please do NOT ask the dreaded "why are you single" question. I promise you, we are gonna be just fine. And we are gonna look hot as hell doing it ;) 

xoxoxo

        PinkLouLou

Roz: Oh PLL you are just TOO cute! Honestly girls, I only found PLL's blog a couple of months ago but ever since then I have been hooked. She's such a typical Southern Belle with the biggest heart and her blogs posts always make me smile, cry or just crack up out loud! She also has some amazing hair 'poofing' skills worth checking out but most of all I love her upbeat personality and 'zest' for life. I know for sure that if I was living in Kentucky, we'd be besties hehe :)  Also I SOOOO agree with this post - I (plus many of my fabulous single girlfriends) always get asked, so why are you single? And it's really really frustrating! So thanks PLL for this lovely upbeat post and all you girls out there make sure you check out her blog - I bet you'll get hooked on it just like me! xoxo